I just finished reading The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. I know these Dr. Laura books are controversial and that some disagree with the principles in these books… But I, on the other hand, been a long-time fan of her previous book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. Both books have helped me to understand my husband better, and to have a more unselfish point of view in our marriage. Here is a great quote from the Marriage one that I just read. I think that it applies to newlyweds and “oldlyweds” alike:
“Of course it is instant disaster, not instant happiness, when two people come together, each with their own notions of how it is going to be… when they marry. Many people perceive marriage as a kind of sauna; you go in and the heat does something to you while you are passive. What [some have] happily discovered is that a good marriage is all about ‘doing’ something, instead of expecting something. When both spouses understand that, it is a beautiful thing” (157).
I am thankful that my husband doesn’t “keep score” in all we do and that he does everything he can to help and show love for me. Especially as we’re apart, I realize how much he does for me and how much I appreciate him. We both believe in building each other up as much as we can, especially in our conversations with others. I know that it makes both of us feel good. The more you focus on the good in each other, the more you see it, and the more it overshadows any faults that might be there. I love and adore you, Pace!